How To Get Divorced Without People Finding Out

How To Get Divorced Without People Finding Out

How To Get Divorced Without People Finding Out

If you are considering divorce, you are probably wondering how to get divorced without people finding out. The short answer is: you can’t.

Divorce impacts more than just you and your spouse. It is inevitable that your friends and family will find out; more than likely your co-workers will find out; and if you have children, the people at his or her school will likely find out.

The important thing to understand, though, is that it’s okay for people to know you’re going through a divorce.

Divorce is a difficult and often lonely process. It may cause you to feel shame and embarrassment, but the reality is that more than 50% of the population gets divorced. You are not an island, and there are many, many others that have been in your situation before.

More than likely, you already know someone that’s been divorced. Trying to hide what you’re going through adds unnecessary stress to an already overwhelming process.

Finding someone that you can lean on and trust to provide you with emotional support during a time like this is one of the better things you can do. This may be a friend, a family member, a counselor, someone from your place of worship, etc.

You don’t have to go through all of this alone or without some kind of support.

While it’s nearly impossible to hide the fact that you are getting divorced, there are ways to keep things private. One of the best things you can do is to avoid posting or sharing things that are related to your situation on social media.

Also, just because your divorce is “public record” does not mean people can find it on Google or that it’s published in a local newspaper.

Individuals that are not attorneys of record in your case have to create an account with the state’s records system and pay various fees in order to get copies or view any documents related to your case – which people rarely do.

You are the one that is mainly in control of the information people can access, and the less you share on social media, the better chance you have at keeping things private.

Ultimately, the best way to minimize interference from others is to respectfully communicate your boundaries. You don’t owe anybody an explanation of what you are going through.

If you find yourself overwhelmed by the persistent questions of others, you have every right to tell them that you don’t feel comfortable talking about the process.

Even if they have good intentions and want to help you, you’re under no obligation to share anything with them. Instead of feeling compelled to talk to everyone about everything, use your time to focus on rebuilding your life, preparing for whatever your new “normal” may be, and healing yourself.

If you are wondering how to get divorced without people finding out and have more questions about the divorce process and what information is made public, schedule a consultation with one of our expert divorce attorneys.


Author: Anna Eden

Attorney Anna Eden is a native of Mobile, Alabama. Prior to joining Herlihy Family Law, Anna worked as a law clerk for Circuit Court Judges Michael Windom and Michael Sherman. It was during her time clerking for Judge Sherman that Anna discovered her passion for helping people navigate the complex and emotional issues involved in family law.

Anna aids in the representation of individuals across a variety of family law issues, including divorce and child support, juvenile law, child custody law, probate, and wills.

Managing Stress Through Yoga: An Online Course Created by Alison Baxter Herlihy

Managing Stress Through Yoga: An Online Course Created by Alison Baxter Herlihy

Alison is a family lawyer by day, but one of her biggest passions is practicing and teaching yoga! She has been practicing yoga for over 20 years, teaching for 5 years, and just recently became a 500-hour certified yoga teacher, which is the highest level of training available for a yoga instructor.

Stress is an epidemic in the United States and lawyers have some of the highest rates of stress of any profession. With family law, the stakes are high because you are fighting for your client’s livelihoods and the well-being of their children. Experiencing a divorce or family law issue yourself can be one of the most stressful life changes there is. Yoga practice, both on an off your yoga mat, has been proven time and again to be effective in managing and coping with stress.

Responding to this need and a desire to help others is what motivated Alison to create her online course, Managing Stress through Yoga. It is a four-week course that combines readings, practices of journaling, mindfulness and meditation, and four 60-minute yoga practices you can do in the privacy of your own home.

For more information and to enroll in Alison’s online course, Managing Stress Through Yoga, click here:



Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Divorce Stress

Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Divorce Stress

Divorce brings with it many negative emotions. Many of these emotions usually cause stress that will interfere in our ability to function from day to day. Research says that the biggest favor you can do yourself is to learn how to relax. You just need to let go of the stress and let everything fall into place. Focus more on keeping yourself active, healthy and moving forward instead of staying stuck. Below are 5 tips that will help deal with divorce stress.

Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Divorce Stress


1. Make sure you pay attention to your personal needs

It’s always best to find a group, close friend or someone that you can talk to about everyday problems. It’s healthy to be able to do that and let go of certain negative feelings.



2.Keep yourself physically fit

Being active is a good way to reduce stress. Whether its yoga, spin class, boxing, any type of exercise will help reduce stress and let out built up anger. It will also though make you feel better about yourself anyways.


3. Make time for some fun

Regarding any situation that someone is in, there should always be time for fun. Going out with friends, family, whoever will always make you happy. Everyone deserves to have fun and let go of what has held them back enjoying life.


4.Change any expectations you have

Let go of what you feel the outcome should be and learn to accept what could possibly happen. Overall just let go of feeling like you can control every aspect of the situation.


5. Let go and move on

Take the time needed to heal from the divorce and all feelings that are still around. Its important to take that time to heal so when you are ready to move on everything is behind and you are ready to start that new journey in your life.