Wondering how to file for divorce? The divorce process can be confusing and complex if you haven’t divorced before. It is important you hire an experienced divorce attorney to represent you and help you navigate the process.
At Herlihy Family Law, we have over 12 years of experience and helped thousands successfully file for divorce. Watch the video below to learn more about where you can begin.
Mediation is a method of alternative dispute resolution where a third party neutral, typically a lawyer, facilitates a settlement agreement in your case.
Mediation is confidential and mediators are impartial.
The mediator does not “decide” or “rule” on the outcome; the mediator’s role is assisting in identifying issues, facilitating communication, focusing interests, exploring alternatives, and helping the disputing parties reach a mutually acceptable resolution.
Mediation is about self-determination — you get to decide the outcome of your case.
Mediation is an option in any civil case but is especially useful in the family law context due to the interests of privacy, flexibility and creativity in finding an arrangement that works for your family, and avoiding the slings and arrows of the courtroom.
Divorce can be a difficult situation for all parties involved, especially the children. Many children are confused about the situation and do not understand why their parents are separating.
Although this can be difficult, talking with children is a crucial part of the puzzle when you are dealing with a divorce. Parents often put off talking to their children about divorce because they are unsure how to explain such a complex situation. But a delay in talking with your children can actually make the divorce more difficult for the children in the long run.
When children are suddenly surprised with the divorce of their parents, they go through a great deal of emotions. Many feel as if it is their fault that their parents are separating, while many begin acting out and become angry with others. This is another reason why explaining to your children why you and your spouse are divorcing is very important.
To help you make this process easier, here are six strategies for talking with your kids about divorce. While it may seem beyond your capabilities, just remember that there are ways to make it easier on both yourself and your children.
Talk to your children with your spouse, if possible. If you present a united front to your children, they may not be as confused about the situation.
Carefully, and appropriately, explain the reasons for the divorce. Make sure whatever you tell your children is appropriate to their age and maturity level.
Make it clear that the divorce is not the child’s fault. Many children struggle with guilt during their parent’s separation. Be sure to reiterate that this is not their fault.
Maintain eye contact and a calm attitude. In order for your children to believe the situation, you must remain calm and truthful. If you begin to get angry, the child may become angry and upset as well.
Avoid blaming your spouse. Although you will have personal issues with your spouse, they are still the child’s parent. Do not put down your spouse to the child. This will only create more stress on the child, making them feel like they should have to pick sides when they should not.
Allow plenty of time for children to ask questions. They will have many questions as to why this is happening and what is going to happen in the future, and they deserve to have those questions answered to your fullest abilities.
Remember, every family is different. Talking about your divorce with your children can be difficult, but will be a critical step forward in the healing process.
Divorce brings with it many negative emotions. Many of these emotions usually cause stress that will interfere in our ability to function from day to day. Research says that the biggest favor you can do yourself is to learn how to relax. You just need to let go of the stress and let everything fall into place. Focus more on keeping yourself active, healthy and moving forward instead of staying stuck. Below are 5 tips that will help deal with divorce stress.
Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Divorce Stress
1. Make sure you pay attention to your personal needs
It’s always best to find a group, close friend or someone that you can talk to about everyday problems. It’s healthy to be able to do that and let go of certain negative feelings.
2.Keep yourself physically fit
Being active is a good way to reduce stress. Whether its yoga, spin class, boxing, any type of exercise will help reduce stress and let out built up anger. It will also though make you feel better about yourself anyways.
3. Make time for some fun
Regarding any situation that someone is in, there should always be time for fun. Going out with friends, family, whoever will always make you happy. Everyone deserves to have fun and let go of what has held them back enjoying life.
4.Change any expectations you have
Let go of what you feel the outcome should be and learn to accept what could possibly happen. Overall just let go of feeling like you can control every aspect of the situation.
5. Let go and move on
Take the time needed to heal from the divorce and all feelings that are still around. Its important to take that time to heal so when you are ready to move on everything is behind and you are ready to start that new journey in your life.
As we all know, one of the biggest issues in a divorce is the family home. It all starts to get messy when the decisions of what will happen to it and who is going to live in it become a concern for the parties. Typically, parties go from having two incomes to contribute to the mortgage and other household expenses during the marriage to having only one income to contribute to those expenses after the divorce.
Below are important questions people need to ask themselves when they aren’t sure if they should keep their home when going through a divorce.
1.Is your marital home a great fit for your new lifestyle?
2.What is your house worth today?
3.What would be the cost to keep the house up?
4.Are you willing to sacrifice financially in other areas to keep the house?
5.Is there any equity in the house or are we “upside down?”
6.If there is equity, can I afford to buy my spouse out?
7.Do I have the income and credit to refinance if the Court so orders?
8.Would it benefit me/us more financially to sell the house?
Having to choose whether or not to keep your residence could possibly be one of the most difficult decisions you will have to make during divorce, as there are likely many good and bad memories associated with your marital home. Its always wise to give yourself time to think it all through very carefully. Everyone needs to be able to manage their assets and develop a plan for financial stability and security in the future.
