Podcast Episode #5: Yoga for Difficult Transitions

Podcast Episode #5: Yoga for Difficult Transitions

Podcast Episode #5: Yoga for Difficult Transitions

Going through a major life change—like a divorce—can be overwhelming and emotionally exhausting. In Episode 5 of the Herlihy Family Law Podcast, Attorney Alison Herlihy speaks with Elizabeth McCraw, co-owner of Kindred Yoga in Midtown Mobile, about how yoga can support people during these challenging times. Their conversation sheds light on how yoga offers more than physical movement—it’s a practice that cultivates emotional resilience, clarity, and a deeper connection with oneself.

Elizabeth’s Yoga Journey and Kindred

Elizabeth first discovered yoga on her 29th birthday, and from that initial class, her love for the practice quickly evolved into a passion for building community. Over time, she worked her way from student to studio manager, and eventually, she brought her own vision to life with Kindred Yoga. Her goal was to create a welcoming neighborhood studio where meaningful connection and personal growth were just as important as the physical practice.

Kindred Yoga was designed with community at its core. It’s a space where students are supported not just in their practice but in life—especially during seasons of uncertainty and transformation.

Yoga’s Unique Benefits for Mental Health

Yoga stands apart from other forms of exercise by offering support on multiple levels—physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual. It integrates movement, breath work, mindfulness, and self-reflection to help individuals develop emotional awareness and regulation.

Rather than just focusing on physical fitness, yoga encourages a deeper level of self-inquiry. Students begin to notice how they react to discomfort, uncertainty, or difficulty—on the mat and in life. This increased self-awareness fosters patience, compassion, and resilience.

Yoga is also highly adaptable. From gentle chair yoga to more dynamic flows, there’s a version of the practice accessible to everyone, regardless of age, ability, or experience.

Navigating Divorce with Yoga Practice

Divorce is one of the most emotionally taxing events a person can experience. During times like these, yoga becomes more than just a form of exercise—it becomes a grounding tool.

In the studio, students face new and often challenging physical movements. Navigating these moments with mindfulness and self-compassion helps build the mental flexibility to approach life’s difficulties with greater clarity. Over time, the lessons learned through yoga—such as using tools, adapting to change, and practicing kindness toward oneself—begin to extend far beyond the mat.

Building Consistency During Major Life Changes

Establishing a new routine during times of upheaval can feel daunting. That’s why it’s helpful to start small. Committing to just one class a week can create a manageable entry point and allow space to build a routine that feels sustainable.

Kindred Yoga makes this process easier through their new student special—a month of unlimited classes—so new students can explore different styles and times without pressure. With a wide variety of classes offered every day of the week, it’s possible to find something that fits any schedule, even during the busiest or most unpredictable seasons.

Breathwork for Stress Reduction

Breathwork is one of the simplest and most effective ways to reduce stress. Techniques like box breathing (inhaling, holding, exhaling, and pausing for equal counts) can calm the nervous system and are easy to incorporate into daily life.

Whether it’s before a court appearance, after a difficult conversation, or in the middle of a sleepless night, conscious breathing helps regulate emotions and restore a sense of control. Breathwork can also be used to boost energy and focus when needed, offering a flexible tool to meet a range of emotional states.

Community Healing and Emotional Resilience

At Kindred Yoga, community is just as important as the individual practice. The studio creates opportunities for connection—whether through group classes, events, or even casual conversations before and after class. This sense of belonging helps counter feelings of isolation, especially during difficult life transitions.

The studio also offers classes and workshops that emphasize emotional resilience, including yin yoga, restorative yoga, and guided yoga nidra. These slower, quieter practices help students stay present with themselves and build inner strength through stillness and reflection.

In addition to regular classes, Kindred hosts book clubs, breathwork series, meditation workshops, and an annual day-long retreat—all designed to help students build emotional awareness, reduce stress, and stay connected to themselves and others.

Yoga isn’t just about movement—it’s a path to rediscovering your inner strength and building a life that feels grounded, intentional, and whole. Whether you’re navigating a divorce or simply seeking a safe, supportive space to reconnect with yourself, Kindred Yoga offers a welcoming place to begin.

To explore class options or learn more, visit Kindred Yoga. And if you found this conversation helpful, be sure to subscribe to the Herlihy Family Law Podcast, leave a review, and share with someone who might benefit from a little extra support.

Podcast Episode #5: Yoga for Difficult Transitions

Podcast Episode #4: How United Way Supports Families in Crisis with Guest Justine Herlihy Bixler

Podcast Episode #4: How United Way Supports Families in Crisis with Guest Justine Herlihy Bixler

In the latest episode of the Herlihy Family Law Podcast, attorney Alison Herlihy sits down with a very special guest—her sister, Justine Herlihy Bixler, President and CEO of United Way of Southwest Alabama. This inspiring conversation explores the critical work United Way does to uplift families, support children, and build a resilient, thriving community throughout Mobile and the surrounding counties.

A Legacy of Service

Justine shares how her journey into nonprofit work was sparked by her early experiences in the legal field—particularly while working on claims related to the BP oil spill. Witnessing firsthand how economic hardship can strike unexpectedly, she felt a calling to create a safety net for people in crisis. That mission has led her to United Way, where she now oversees programs and partnerships that directly impact more than 300,000 people annually across Mobile, Clarke, Choctaw, and Washington Counties.

United Way’s Four Impact Areas

Justine explains United Way’s mission to improve quality of life by focusing on four key areas:

  1. Health – Ensuring access to physical and mental health care.
  2. Financial Stability – Supporting families through crises and helping them build long-term economic security.
  3. Resilient Communities – Strengthening the community’s ability to respond to both personal and large-scale disasters.
  4. Youth Opportunity – Empowering children and young adults to reach their full potential, especially during critical early development years.

Resources for Families in Transition

Alison and Justine delve into how divorce can bring unexpected financial and emotional strain—and how United Way and its partner agencies can help. Justine highlights several resources that could benefit families navigating difficult transitions:

  • 2-1-1 Help Line – A 24/7 confidential service that connects individuals to local nonprofits offering everything from food assistance to childcare and healthcare services. It’s like a matchmaking app for needs and resources.
  • Lifelines Counseling Services – Offers counseling for adults and children, as well as financial coaching and homebuying support.
  • Penelope House – Provides emergency and transitional shelter, counseling, and support for victims of domestic violence.
  • Feeding the Gulf Coast – Tackles food insecurity with weekend and summer backpack programs for children who rely on school meals.
  • The Basics Program – Delivers free, science-based text message tips to caregivers of children ages 0–5 to support early brain development.

These services—many of which are available to anyone regardless of income—create a safety net that families can rely on during tough times, including after divorce or custody challenges.

How to Get Involved

Justine encourages listeners to get involved in ways that go beyond writing a check:

  • Volunteer Connect – United Way’s platform to match individuals with local volunteer opportunities based on their interests.
  • Emerging Leaders Program – A network of young professionals committed to improving quality of life through community service and leadership.
  • Corporate Involvement – Businesses can support United Way by encouraging employee involvement in giving campaigns, volunteer panels, and community initiatives.

A Vision for the Future

As United Way of Southwest Alabama approaches its 100th anniversary, Justine reflects on the honor of leading an organization so deeply embedded in the fabric of the community. With a focus on creating lasting change—not just temporary fixes—United Way is committed to helping families not only survive but thrive.

Learn More and Get Connected

If you’re inspired to learn more, volunteer, or support United Way’s mission, visit www.uwswa.org. You can also find United Way of Southwest Alabama on Facebook, Instagram, and even TikTok!

Listen to the full episode of the Herlihy Family Law Podcast for more insight from Justine Herlihy Bixler and learn how you can make a difference right here in Southwest Alabama.

How you can make divorce easier on your kids

How you can make divorce easier on your kids

How you can make divorce easier on your kids

The number one predictor of whether children fare well after a divorce or not is whether a divorce is a “high conflict” divorce.  A high-conflict divorce is one that is marked by conflict for the sake of conflict; preoccupation with assigning blame, being “right,” and winning at all costs; and manipulation or even outright abuse.  When someone has a high-conflict personality, they will not think twice about using the children to get what they want, even at a cost to the children.  When children experience a high-conflict divorce, they are more likely to have substance abuse problems and experience mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety, and less likely to finish college or have children of their own.

The first way to make a divorce easier on the kids is to leave them out of it!  Do not involve your children in adult matters, either directly or indirectly.  You may think that your children are not listening to your conversations with other adults or do not understand, but they are and they do. Do not use your children as messengers and try to avoid arguing in front of them.

The second way is to get some advice on how to have age-appropriate discussions with your kids about the divorce.  Both Mobile and Baldwin Counties require parents to participate in a class about helping children cope with divorce, so you can get some helpful tips there.  You could also seek the advice of their school counselor or a therapist who works with children.

Lastly, always remind your children that they are not the cause of the divorce, that you love them and that will not change, even if you and the other parent have two different households.  This may seem obvious, but divorce is hard and the stress can sometimes make you lose sight of what is most important – your children.

Can you move out of your house during a divorce?

Can you move out of your house during a divorce?

Can you move out of your house during a divorce?

Moving out is one of the most common questions we receive, but the answer is not as simple as you might think.  Many people think that moving out in the middle of a divorce constitutes “abandonment,” but this is a misconception.  The legal definition of abandonment, pursuant to Alabama law, is voluntary abandonment from bed and board for one year next preceding the filing of the complaint.  This means that simply moving out does not constitute “abandonment” as a fault ground for divorce under the law.  You do not forfeit any assets or any legal right in the marital home because you move out.

This being said, the courts in our area all enter status quo orders when a divorce is filed which basically provides that the parties shall continue to pay their bills and expenses in the same ways and from the same sources as they did prior to filing for a divorce.  This means that many people cannot move out because they cannot financially afford to while also maintaining the status quo regarding the payment of bills.

If children are involved, things get more complicated.  If custody of the children is an issue in your case, your spouse probably will not agree to you moving out and taking the children with you.  If you want to be awarded custody of your children, it is not advisable that you move out and leave the children with your spouse because that creates the appearance that you are essentially agreeing for them to have custody of the children.  Courts can potentially hear requests for temporary custody while a divorce is pending, but they often will not award the same absent an emergency or safety issue.  Often, when both parents want custody of the children, they end up having to live together until their divorce is concluded unless they can reach an agreement about temporary custody and visitation.

How long does a divorce take in Mobile, Alabama?

How long does a divorce take in Mobile, Alabama?

How long does a divorce take in Mobile, Alabama?

Wondering how long divorce takes in Mobile, Alabama? This article with give you a better idea of how long the process takes and what you can expect.

Uncontested and Contested

There are basically two main pathways to getting a divorce: uncontested and contested.

An uncontested divorce means the parties are able to reach an agreement on all terms, including custody, visitation, child support, and division of assets and debts.  Typically, one party will hire an attorney to draft the agreement which is sent to the opposing party. The opposing party can either choose to be unrepresented and sign the agreement, or they can consult with their own attorney to advise them.  One attorney is not allowed to represent both parties.  Both parties then sign the agreement setting out their agreed-upon terms, and the agreement is filed with the court. There is no case pending with the court until the agreement itself is filed.  No one is “served” and no one appears in court or goes in front of a judge in an uncontested divorce. The agreement has to be on file for 30 days, then the judge will grant your divorce.

A contested divorce means one party files a complaint for divorce with the court and the opposing party is personally served by a sheriff or private process server with the complaint and a summons, which is a notice to respond. In almost every contested divorce case, the parties conduct discovery, which means both parties will have to answer questions and provide documents relevant to the divorce, such as financial information. Once discovery is complete, the divorce case can then be set for trial.  In Mobile County, the average time frame that it takes a contested divorce to go to trial is 6 to 12 months.

Do you always have to go in front of a judge?

No!  As explained above, an uncontested divorce is submitted on the agreement of the parties and you never have to go to court.  Even if a case starts out as a contested case, the majority of cases still settle out of court, either by submitting a written agreement or by participating in mediation which then results in a written agreement being submitted.  For more information about mediation, please see one of our mediation blog posts. As long as both parties are willing to be fair, it is almost always in your best interests to settle your case without going to trial because you can craft your own solution that is best suited to your family’s needs.